Poetic Notes Journal

A lot of relationships, tend to split, maybe sooner or later, only a quarter of first time relationships made it through so far for the real thing, marriage. I won’t be tackling the mature stuff of marriage and marriage life, but I’d like to discuss the other side of the coin, the breakup part.

What could be reasons for a breakup? Education, just like I might have mentioned earlier? Or maybe the will of the parents which has happened to me once in a time already. It might also be due to the unfaithfulness of your partner, or of any other reason which I could enlist here with no ending.

But I’d like to ask one question, prior breaking up,  did you ever thought things through? Or didn’t you? I mean, are you sure that you are ready to say goodbye and can you stand those strong words? (sa tagalog pa: kaya mo bang paninindigan?) Because if you can’t, then just do not breakup, it would just end up in a sea of tears for both parties.

You must come to the understanding that when you breakup with someone, it shouldn’t be your mind itself that doesn’t wants to continue anymore, but your heart and yourself as well, and so vice versa. Breaking up with someone you’ve been with for quiet some time and have shared quiet happy moments is not as easy as it seems to be and as it is said. It takes some time to get over a person, and often, you come to realize that you just cannot get over him or her. Goodbye’s not forever, many people say; then why do you need to say goodbye at all?

I don’t see the point in that. Don’t leave your lover if you can’t live without them. And always be considerate enough to understand the point of view of other people, not only the view of yourself. It’ll definitely lead to nowhere if you will be selfish. Love is not about just taking and taking, but about giving and sacrificing. I’m not saying that you should sacrifice yourself neither your education for your partner, but a little emotionally face down is always healthy and avoids you of being too spoiled.

Break up, if you know that you can hold on to your words, but never do so, if you think that goodbye’s are not forever, because just then, you may not see your lover anymore, again..